Joseyln, who was a participant discussing a
controversial topic “can a man and a woman be just friends” on Super
Morning Show Friday, said friends with benefits, comes with no pressure
or obligations that characterize the tag of being somebody’s girlfriend
or boyfriend.
Joining in to share their thoughts was Joy FM
producer Sedem Ofori, Ghana’s popular playwright Uncle Ebo Whyte and
writer, Nana Darkowaa Sekyiamah.
From Left to Right: Sedem Ofori, Joselyn,Nana Darkowaa,Uncle Ebo and Kojo Yankson nestled in the middle.
Uncle Ebo Whyte who believed sex complicates
friendships said “it is possible [for man and a woman to be just
friends] but the moment sex comes in the whole dimensions of a
relationship changes, friendship should be allowed to grow” he said.
Sedem thought holding off sex in a friendship
is in itself evidence that the possibility is real and shouldn’t be
underestimated.
Relaxed and beaming, Joseyln threw out the
fear of sex ruining a friendship, suggesting that while men and women
can just be friends, sometimes sex could be needed to test if a
relationship is possible.
“I think that when there is a tag in a
relationship, it becomes a problem, then the expectations are quiet
high, but when you have a friend with benefits you see how it goes, if
it goes well, and we eventually decides that we are going to take it a
step further, Kudos, but once this is my boyfriend, this is my
girlfriend or am married, there is that pressure, I don’t personally
like that, so I will have a friend with benefit”
Overall, the comments suggested that men and women might have very different goals and motives for “friendships“. Each looks at the responsibilities in friendship and love a bit differently.
As a result, men and women tend to co-create this friend zone confusion.
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